A little over a month ago I received a very long email asking me to take part in a female awareness/empowerment project, named the what I see project. After reading the first paragraph of the email, I was already sold.
The bulk of the project was asking me what I saw when I looked in the mirror. And I must honestly say a lot of answers went through my mind. Physically, I don’t look in the mirror a lot (mainly only to fix my hair, and you have all seen my hair so……….) but I am actually a very reflective person. As I was saying, I went through a series of answers before I finally decided to actually look in the mirror and say the first thing I saw and guess what it was. DARK SKIN!! I know, that’s like the first thing everyone sees when they look at me and most people probably don’t like to be defined by that, but I actually prefer it. Fist of all, there is no denying that I am a dark skinned girl, so why would I get mad or even care if someone called me the dark chocolate one (this, amongst other similar phrases are constantly used to define me). Second of all, I was lucky to have grown up in an environment where my skin was appreciated and I was taught to love myself but third and most importantly, I have over the years come to recognize that my dark skin is A UNIQUE POINT about me. As i have grown to love and understand that its me and it works for me, I have learnt how to use it in telling my story. I am a dark skinned girl, a black African, and an African British and that has translated into everything I do. from this blog, which is all about my African fabrics meeting my western style sensibilities to my brand to the very way I walk down the road. Learning to embrace something that I might have been teased about or made to feel insecure about has given me confidence and helped me find a strength that i can’t otherwise imagine. And because I love my dark skin, others around me love it too.
In essence, that is what drew me to this project. its the getting women to face themselves and embrace themselves as they are and the growth that can result from that.
The project features a group of about 100 women known as communicators whom you can check out here and a group of highly successful female ambassadors talking about their journeys whom you can check out here.
I think this is a great project and you too can get involved by recording your own video, posting it and joining in the conversation here.
Thanks for reading, lovelies and do let me know your thoughts and feelings